Adoption IS an option

You have hope – we can help. We offer confidential services to you. You are free to contact us without fear of anyone knowing you have. You may call and ask questions whether you make an adoption plan in the end or choose to parent your child. We would be glad to talk with you and you are free from any obligation if you only need information.

Every birthmother has her own set of strengths, challenges and problems, as well as resources and values. There is no “typical” client. Our clients have ranged in age from 12 to 44. Each client’s reason for choosing adoption was as unique as her circumstances.

Adoption may be a good option for you in your situation and an alternative to abortion for an unwanted or teenage pregnancy. Adoption is nothing like what is shown in TV movies. Adoption has changed dramatically in the past few years – you have many choices!

Adoption is NOT abandonment! [LINK TO “Myths about adoption article] Adoption is choosing a family for a child when you are not at a place in your life to provide stability or a two-parent family. Published studies have shown that adopted children are typically happy, well-adjusted and have a high level of self-esteem. When they choose to search for their birth mother, it is often to say, “Thank you for making what must have been a difficult decision for you. I have had a blessed life with loving parents.”

Maybe this is not your first pregnancy and friends and family have offered to help you and have not followed through. Maybe you feel that you simply cannot care for a child or if you have children, for another child. Maybe you are a student or are having financial difficulties. Whatever your situation, you don’t need to feel guilty. Many birth mothers  with an unwanted pregnancy or teenage pregnancy have chosen adoption insteard of abortion and have been very happy with their decision.

Just as we all look different physically, we are all made differently emotionally. We work to tailor an adoption plan that fits YOUR needs specifically.

You have the option of choosing and meeting the adoptive couple. Each couple is thoroughly screened so that we can assure you that you baby will be placed in a loving, secure and Christian home. Some of our families already have a child or children, but many of them are childless and not able to have children. You have the option of an open adoption – you choose and meet the family and have the option of seeing the child again in the future. You may choose a semi-open adoption – you may still choose and meet the family, but ongoing contact is handled through the agency – the family will sent pictures and letters to keep you updated about the child’s progress. Or, if you prefer, you may have a completely confidential adoption. You may still choose the family if you wish, but you have the option of having no contact after placement.

You have the option of seeing the baby and spending as much time as you wish with the baby while you are in the hospital. If you want the adoptive couple to begin bonding with the baby, you may request that they have access to the baby in the nursery so that they can be there for the scheduled feeding times.

Birthfathers have rights legally and if a birthfather is unsure about adoption or just doesn’t know much about it, we would be glad to meet with him or talk by phone. If he states that he does not wish to participate, it is still possible to make an adoption plan. If you choose adoption and work with an agency, the birthfather situation can be handled by the agency to protect you if necessary.

Adoption is NOT foster care. Foster care is and should be temporary. Adoption is permanent and stable.

Parenting a child is a commitment to provide a stable, loving and permanent home for a child. If you don’t believe you are able to provide that at this point in your life for whatever reason.

Adoption can be a good option and it may be the best option for you – when you consider the large numbers of children in the foster care system today because they have been abused (often by the mother’s boyfriend) or neglected, it would seem that adoption might have been the better choice for those children.

Following are some of the notes I’ve received from birth mothers. There is so much more to talk about and we don’t mind hearing from you…Debbie

“You took my dream of a ‘perfect’ open adoption and made it a reality: my daughter will have a wonderful home life and I’ll still have her as part of my life. You championed my cause and I can never thank you enough for it! May you have many more happy, healthy open adoptions. Your friend.”

“I can’t begin to express the love and respect I feel toward your ministry. You allowed me to search within myself and find a love greater than I thought possible. God took an ugly situation and turned it into one of the most beautiful things that has ever happened to me. You made me feel like I was part of a family and that was very important to me. Thank you for caring about me and my son and for blessing him with wonderful and loving parents.”

“Thank you for all your program did for me. You gave me another chance in life and gave my baby boy a chance, too. I will never forget the wonderful people I met while I was there. You helped me through a hard time and I love and appreciate you.”

“I trusted New Beginnings because I wanted my son to go to a loving and stable home. Due to some bad circumstances and me being young and still living at home, I wanted better for him. I come from a really good family, but I wanted to get my life back on track and I did not want life to be a struggle for him. You couldn’t have made a better match. I always find the strength within to know that with no doubts I made the right decision. I think of you all often and how blessed he is. Thank you for the letters and pictures.”

“When my baby girl was born, I prayed that God would give me the strength and wisdom that I needed. I looked at her and thought about the life that God had intended for her. I knew I could give her all the love in the world, but I had nothing else to give her. I also knew there would be a family that would love her as much as I did that had waited and prepared for a baby for a long time. I finished school, made good grades and completed college. I have peace with my decision and am so thankful I chose life and adoption for my baby.”

“Throughout my pregnancy, I prayed for my baby girl. Early in my pregnancy, I decided to choose adoption. It was not an easy decision, but I realized how unstable her life would be with me. I’m young and know from my life the pain of not having a father’s love. Even though I love my baby with every bone and fiber of my body, I am still a kid. I have not discarded or rejected my baby, but I was willing to let her go so that she could have every opportunity in life.”